Smita was travelling for work from dum dum stn to gariaghat metro stations of kolkata.
She encountered sanjay holding Luv kush.
She was filled with happiness but waa unreachable because of crowd.
Somehow when he got disappeared in crowd and she started thinkin…
“SANJAY! Slow down the speed!
I don’t wana die am not even married now!”
Sanjay-“So is it ok to die after marriage?”
Smita-“Nahi!but my dreams are not full filled yet.”
Sanjay-“Oh..So you are dreaming about your marriage?”
Smita-“Everyone does!”
Sanjay-“why don’t i then?”
Smita-“shut up!you do i know.”
With giggles and teasing each other the drive stopped at the best view for sundown near a lake.
Sanjay holded smita’s hands and said “I fear dieing…dieing alone…fear travelling alone….fear encountering the beautiful moments alone…fear not havin Love…fear not having you…in my life forever.Will you marry me smita?”
Smita said “yes!” To the oldest friend of her who was with her when she left home and took a hard decision of studyn and doin job on her own.She did like him and was closest to him.
Childhood friend who gonna become life partner was an amazing feeling for her.
Smita called sanjay-“Sanjay i can’t marry you now”
Sanjay – ” why?”
Smita – ” We can’t afford a glam wedding as baba (father) has fixed savings due till next 2years.He did wanted to provide us gifts for households and comfort but i can’t forcd him.If you can wait for 2years or else…”
Sanjay – ” Smitu! Are you mad!Why dint you tell me this thing and see tell baba that i don’t need any stuff.I managed to buy all what we need in home.You are educated you love me baba said yes to our relationship are enough reasons baba can comfort me with.And yes there will be only one party and we will both call our closed ones.
Smita-“Why will you afford our guests?”
Sanjay – ” why not! You are mine and i am yours…we both will afford according to our budgets and no need to take tension unnecessarily.Discuss with me before thinking anything stupid.”
Smita-“But marriage expenses are spent by bride’s family know?”
Sanjay – ” Why so…if we both are getting married why only you guys will spend when its about both of us?Stupid indian irony smitu…I don’t follow these…”
Sanjay and smita got married at court soberly and had a gathering with close family and friends.
They both started living together at a 2bhk flat at dumdum, kolkata.As Sanjay’s mom dad were at Ranaghat and were still working as Government employees and had big joint family there.
Smita din’t know cooking and Sanjay din’t know Cleaning and washing.They divided there work and before smita woke up food was ready at 10am tiffins were packed breakfast was ready.Smita was sorry for waking up late.Sanjay said “I understand Smitu.”
Sanjay leaves by 10.30am and Smita did washing cleaning and left at 1pm.Sanjay was a government employee and smita was in b.p.o.She came at 9pm.Sanjay was watching football match.Smita requested him to play some music as she had a tough day.Sanjay did dat quickly.She said Now i am mentally prepared to cook something for you.Sanjay said everything is cooked.Smita said ” Sanju am the wife.I must do it!
Sanjay – ” Is it some rule dear?Who said you this that a wife must cook?”
Smita – ” Everyone does na? Seen my mother..aunties…friends.My collegue was also saying that she cooks 3 time meal and attends office.she even bought microwave this month soh that her family can have hot food.
Sanjay-“See smita…i accepted you as you are..you don’t have to become someone you are not . It’s completly your choice to become a housemaker or a working women. I adore what you do for me and for our future.You keep house clean do savings and keep me happy in all ways you can . That’s enough for me and our relationship.Food is part of sustainability for that you don’t have to feel guilty.If you want to learn and do with your wish i won’t stop but don’t take pressure for what others do.
Smita hugged sanjay and enjoyed the dinner.
Smita was missing her father.She wanted to go for a few days.
Smita-“Sanju i want to ask you something can i if you don’t mind?”
Sanjay-“Yup say!”
Smita – ” I wana meet papa.i am missing him.can i see him and be with him for few days?”
Sanjay – ” Smitu you don’t need my permission to meet your own dad!”You left house and staying with me doesn’t means your dad has become your dad less and your home became your home less.You can stay as many days you want to.”
Smita goes to her “home” and misses Sanjay soo much that she calls sanjay to stay there and returns in few days.Sanjay gives equal love to smita’s parents and gets equal love and repect for his mom dad.The love and respect for sanjay has immensely touched Smita till now.
Life was smooth…
Sanjay-“Smitu get ready fast we will get late.Arnav will scold me and Aarvi will scold you. ”
Arnav aarvi were old friends who got married 3years ago.Arnav is a businessman and aarvi is an idol housemaker.Mother of 1 and expecting another.Its there anniversary.
SMita-“Congratulations! Am soo happy fr this double occasion yaar.am sorry we are late was stuck in jam.”
Aarvi-“thanks dear!Koi baat nahi.So,How’s life?When are you planning for a baby?
Smita-“Life is good with Sanjay.Baby!well may be 3-4 years later.”
Aarvi-“Din’t your in-laws started taunting about it yet (with a deep laugh)”
Smita-“No!They don’t interfere much in our life.They gave us our own free life.”
Aarvi-“But you know what a baby changes everything they fills your life with love and your husband becomes more caring towards you and future aspects
…… (The lecture continued like she will keep my children when i go office or she gonna afford the expenses and tensions for which we are not prepared..)
Sanjay interrupted-” Ladies May i?
Aarvi – “yes sure!”
Sanjay – ” Aarvi who doesn’t wants to have that ultimate feeling of being a mother or father but a Mother only has right to be mentally prepared and take her own time to have that Lovable gift.It is her choice to choose career for now as i also have that right.We are equal.So why not we take our own time and plan for the best upbringing. hope it happened with you as well.”
Aarvi – ” hmm…” (with a low voice as she was in piar pressure from family and was not mentally prepared)
Arnav entered to the conversation and said “oh let’s leave the debate and enjoy!”
After a nice time and smita’s Eyes filled with love and respect for sanjay they come home.
Smita-“I love you sanju!”
Sanjay – ” Love you too but suddenly what happened? ”
Smita – ” I love the way you let me be me…let me be a part of you…love your thinking the way you respect my individuality…”
Sanjay – ” What is this let me be thing?
Smitu you are what you are.I am your husband doesn’t means i will “let you” do anything.You have your own identity nevee forget You were smita whom i loved and you are smita whom i love and will always.
(With hugs and kisses story turns to be…
They had twins after 3 years as they planned,And they are 4year old now.Sanjay cooks and do take care of babies equally which never made him less Man…Smita is now Manager at the same bpo..Sanjay and Smita has saved enough for the Poland trip they planned…Sanjay and smita Got their kids admission at the best school…gave best upbringing…balanced there life with realtives friends and patents…Life is going real smooth….and happily)
UNREALISTIC RIGHT???
I won’t say completely but yes it is not that true to have such a fairytale.
The typical mentality and “The Man
“attitude of a husband makes this story false.
Marriage is a big responsibility where a man and lady decides to live a life together.
That doesn’t means A Man is anyway superior or he is taking the bride his home is making her less important.
A man must feel lucky that these rituals are still happening where You are receiving 18-35 years of dedicated love care and most preciously grown up lady to be your wife.
If you are a man or lady it is no less responsible for how you deliver the happiness to each others life.Efforts becomes effective when You have the understanding and love unconditionally.
Sanjay respected Smita’s individuality and he deserved his respect.Smita never showed her status which was more than sanjay after she became manager.He dint showed ever that i am man and i am the one you must listen to what usually happenns in our society.Smita never got ashamed of sanjay taking care of kids or cooking for her.Sanjay and smita never instructed or forced eachother anything which they were not agreed with.Nowadays even a pet won’t listen to you if it’s not there wish.
We must respect every individual’s choices.And we must understand this fact that marriage is not cutting off the freedom factor.Marriage is not being jailed.Trust is the factor which must remain and not the questionnaire.
Marriage must make two individuals soo close that they feel freedom together and trust eachother deeply.
If someone can’t be sanjay/Smita it is totally fine because Sanjay/Smita doesn’t exist.
Be the best example of being best Man for your Lady and best lady for your man.
LOVE & RESPECT are keys to a success married life!
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